Our marriage has been wonderful to say the least. God has certainly blessed us both in it and I know I got something far better than I deserve. With that said though, it has been extremely difficult at times.
There were the sleepless nights, the times when we could not even bring up a subject without tears, times when we felt like there was a chasm between us. Only a couple months after being married we realized very deeply that if this marriage were to be successful at all it is purely by God's grace. Sure, we could be married for the rest of our lives by our sheer will-power to not divorce but in order to make it loving, self sacrificing and a reflection of Christ's love to His church....that would take God to work!
We were different. Different in so many ways. Yet the one thing we always could agree on was our love for each other. God had brought us together and wanted to put us together for His glory. We knew that and if all we could do was pray together for God's uniting love to unite our hearts that's what we did.
And He heard. God has united our hearts in such an amazing way during the past 7 months or so. I'm continually in awe!
We can't wait to see what God will do in the next year!
Some brief things I've learned in one year:
Pour your heart out to him
Show him you trust him with your thought and struggles. Tell him how your spiritual walk is going, what God has been teaching you lately and what you feel like you need to learn. Let him know your weaknesses and that you want him to help you learn how to be more Christ-like in those areas. When you do this not only do you strengthen the bond and intimacy between the two of you you also open up the door for him to share with you in the same way.
Be as understanding as possible
Listen to what he says and try to understand him, respect his thoughts and don't tear him down just because you can't understand why he thinks what he thinks. God doesn't command women to think everything exactly like their husbands or to follow blindly. That is not only unrealistic but ungodly. Your husband will appreciate that you are trying your best to understand him. It conveys love and sincerity.
Love him in your body language
Kiss him, kiss him and kiss him again! Let him know how much you adore him by your looks, your smile across the room, your excitement when he comes home from work, and your body language when you are out in public. Make him feel that you are super proud to be his wife all of the time...because, well.. you are!
One year has been a whirlwind of God's goodness and love. He is so good to us and we are so undeserving of this wonderful journey He has sent us on!
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